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After You Hang Up the Phone

  • By Kim Milberg
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  • 05 Jun, 2018
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How to strengthen yourself after the phone call that comes in the middle of the night

In the last few weeks, the veteran community lost a gem of a man to suicide, and it was very hard on a lot of people. Many of you reading this have invested into helping veterans who are going through hell. It is my heart’s desire to take some time to encourage you, the helpers, the ones who answer the phone in the middle of the night, doing whatever you can to save a life or get a vet out of a bad situation. For those of you who do this, thank you.

But first, I’d like to ask you a question: After you hang up the phone, have you thought of the deep-seated need to replenish yourself? If so, what do you do?

I won’t go into the example of the importance of taking care of yourself and how those airline flight attendants say to put the mask on yourself before trying to help anyone else. I’m betting you already know that. But I will tell you that Jesus, when He ministered, actually ‘felt’ power go out from Him’ Luke 8:46. When Jesus was drained of His spiritual power to help those who sought Him, He knew to take time to pull away and spend time with His Father. And if Jesus needed that time, how much more do we need it!

Let me ask you a few more questions:

1) imagine that you call a Battle Buddy and spend several grueling hours on the phone listening to the issues that they are dealing with, which includes significant, dangerous family issues. By the end of the phone call you are feeling exhausted, drained, overwhelmed, and discouraged. After you hang up the phone, what do you tend to do next?

2) imagine that you have a physically exhausting week at work. Imagine that you come home at the end of the week. What are the first few things you usually do to recuperate?

3) imagine you get a phone call in the middle of the night. It’s a veteran you don’t know, but they tell you they just cant handle life anymore. Maybe they’re going to loose their marriage, kids, or their home. They say they want to just get in the car and drive and leave the whole thing behind, and you are talking to them, trying to find out if they are thinking about taking their own life. What are you most likely to do after you hang up with them?

4) you just found out your friend, a combat veteran, committed suicide. How do you, or how have you, reacted?

When I worked as a nurse, I was happy just to try to cope with difficult situations much like these. To cope means to deal effectively with a situation. Coping effectively might include distracting yourself, like going to get something to eat, watching tv, playing video games, drinking, etc. Removing yourself can be pulling away from others and not continuing in the relationship with the person you spoke to. You can also remove yourself emotionally which in some cases can be healthy, or it can account for feelings of numbness. The third way of coping is rewarding yourself, usually with food, booze, or shopping. The sense that you earned a reward usually happens if you were able to truly help, or if you were happy just to be able to make it thru the phone call. You can see where distraction and rewarding yourself are good, but can go off the rails fairly quick and easily. These three coping mechanisms seem a bit like treading water. Maybe you’re not drowning, but your also not moving forward. A better way to deal with these difficult times or phone calls is to actually REPLENISH yourself. To replace the heart, the energy, the love that you just willingly gave away. But how? How can you build yourself back up in order to be ready to help the next veteran?

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You might have heard it said that people are body, soul, and spirit. Actually, you ARE a spirit, you HAVE a soul - which is a mind, will, and emotions - and you LIVE IN a body. To replenish after giving of yourself, you need to strengthen all 3 areas. One of the first things you need to know is that after helping someone, is that you have a choice on how you respond. Life is best lived when lived on purpose. Live your life on purpose, actively, being aware of your ability and need to make decisions instead of just living passively. And after you have spent time, whether on facebook, on the phone, or in person helping someone, especially if you help a lot of veterans, make the quality decision to replenish yourself. You can do this by first thinking of your spirit, soul, and body and making sure you are aware of replenishing all 3 areas.

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Pray for them, and yourself, knowing, believing that they will receive what you have prayed. Ephesians 1:16-21 is a prayer for a spirit of wisdom and revelation. Ephesians 3:14-21 is a prayer for understanding the love of God. Colossians 1:9-14 is a great prayer that covers pain and patience and love. I always pray that if I said anything wrong, hurtful, or just dumb, that God would allow them to not have heard it or not to remember it. And that the good, encouraging things that were said be remembered. And take time to replenish your spirit, not by dwelling on what was said, but by doing a Philippians 4:8. This isn’t easy, if you’re not used to doing it, but if you want to help people this is the best thing you can do for yourself and those you will help. Philippians 4:8(NLT) says: ‘And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.’ God is not concerned only with your replenishment, he is concerned with your Restoration. To replenish is to build back up. To restore is to completely bring something back to it’s original condition. If your spiritual tank was running on fumes before that phone call, replenishing is a start, but total restoration is ideal. Which leads us to the best replenishment and restoration: spend time in the Bible daily, reading and believing. It will change your life because it changes your heart. And changing your heart is a change in both your rational mind and the emotional part of your mind.

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First, actively PROCESS what just happened. Think about the conversation you just had. Ask questions like: What were they upset about? Why did they call you? What were my emotions when I was talking with them? Realize that to help them, you don’t have to feel their pain. There are cells in the brain called Mirror Neurons. Special neurons that actually mirror the behavior of who you are interacting with. One way to determine if you have a lot fo mirror neurons is if you tend to yawn when you see someone else yawn. Mirrored behavior. Anyway, take time to PROCESS, or think through, the conversation you just had. No critiques, just get a handle on what happened. As you process what happened, you may find yourself feeling some strong emotions. You might cry. Remember the physics principle that says energy can neither be created nor destroyed? Crying can be a great way to release emotional energy.

Next, EVALUATE. Are they a danger to themselves or to someone else? If so, get them professional help, or call a family member to let them know. Could you have directed them to someone or some organization that could have helped them? Did you show a non-judgmental attitude toward them?   Do you need to call them, or anyone else back? Is there a reminder you need to add to your phone about any further action? Do it then. Evaluate how you did, and what they might still need. Last, is how did you hold up? Was this a trigger for you? How is talking with them effecting you? Do you need to find help for yourself? As you evaluate, be honest. Are you feeling emotionally numb? Are you saying the right words, but you feel nothing? That could be a sign that you have exhausted the hormones that accompany emotions. A hormonal deficiency can be a real danger signal that your internal system is off, so pay attention to it and consider seeking medical treatment. You are empty and have no heart left to give.

Fourth, DECIDE. Is there anything else you need to do to help? Do you still want to continue in a relationship with this person? Do they accept what you are saying, or blow you off? What do they want the next few steps to be, and what do you want the next few steps to be? Consider writing down what needs to happen next, and deciding how to make sure it gets done. Don’t drop the ball if you made the decision to continue to help. Also, it’s important to know yourself and how far you can stretch. The pre-frontal cortex (part of the brain located behind your forehead) is the rational part of your brain. The PFC helps you to recharge. Every person is either interpersonal or intrapersonal. ‘Intra-personal’ means you recharge by being alone. ‘Interpersonal’ you recharge by being around others. The pre-frontal cortex spans both halves of the front of the brain. If you tend to use the right half of the PFC, you will be more of a ponderer. You tend to mull things over and over. This can be really difficult if you are in the mode of helping veterans, as you might have to fight the urge to look too deeply into what you said. It makes doing the Philippians 4:8 thinking more of a challenge. If you tend to use the left side of the PFC, you tend to be laid back and don’t second guess yourself. Understanding how you think can help you deal with stress and keep you away from carrying guilt.


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After a stressful event, chocolate, a few shots of bourbon, or day old cold pizza might sound like what you crave, but this is a vital time to replenish yourself with nutrition. Drink water. If the phone call was upsetting, you may not want to, or feel like eating for a few hours. Don’t. Gastric juices are restricted when strong emotions are present.. Eating a lot of unhealthy foods will cause that food to sit in your stomach, undigested for up to 6 hours. Realize, too, that 100% of your vitamin B and C stores are lost in only THREE TO FIVE MINUTES OF STRESS. So consider eating something with leafy greens and maybe an orange. Deep breathing is good, too. Put your hands on your back, turned with fingertips touching above your spine. Take a breath, called a belly breath, which lowers your diaphragm and allows your lungs to really expand. You know your doing it right when your fingertips separate. Take a few breaths - not enough to get dizzy -but enough to suck life-giving oxygen into your lungs and push it out into your bloodstream. If you are feeling wound up, think: ‘longest, strongest’. Think about it. YOU were feeling stress and other emotions as that other person was pouring out their heart to you. Again, go to the physics principle that energy can neither be created or destroyed. If you were upset during the phone call, you still have energy that is now shooting around your insides like a pinball. Frequent or constant stress does actual physical damage and can lead to lifelong diseases. A friend of mine who is a children’s counselor says when kids are really hyper, she has them do several sets of squats. Squats use the longest and strongest muscles in the body, and are able to burn off lots of energy in an efficient way. Next is sleep. Sleep is vital, although I wont go deep into int in this blog. A lot of you have told me that you find it hard to sleep, so if you cant sleep, lay down, close your eyes and try to rest. Sometimes you are in a light sleep and you wont realize it.

This information that I have given you is not exhaustive. There are entire books written on the subject. But I wanted to provide you with at least some information on both the ‘why’ and the ‘how’ of taking care of yourself, because you are every bit as important as the veterans that you are helping.

Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to read this blog. Know that I love you and am praying for you. And know that you are not here by accident!

How To Find a New Church

By Kim Milberg • July 6, 2020

With the quarantine behind us, we have all had the opportunity to attend other churches virtually.  And if you had the slightest bit of trepidation about the church you were attending in person in the pre-quarantine, this could be your perfect opportunity to check around online to see if there is somewhere else that better meets your needs.  But before you make that move, there are some important things to know so you don’t end up at a new church yet dealing with the same old problems.

My husband and I have been saved since 1987 and have attended only 6 different churches, so we are anything but 'church hoppers'. The times that we did leave and look for a different church, it was physically, spiritually, and emotionally painful, it was something that I quickly learned to dread.  Finding a new church might be painful, but it is nothing compared to attending a spiritually dead church, or worse, attending a good church and watch it die slowly.

So I encourage you to get pen and paper and write the answers to these questions down. Get real. Put your heart into this. A good church is worth the time and energy it takes to find it. A good church can help you grow, mature, have a better understanding of the Word of God and teach you how to pray. And good planning and being led by God’s spirit can help you to find a a great church without breaking your heart in the process.


Why Change?
The first and most important thing to consider is to identify why you want to leave your current church.

1. Has someone offended you?
2. Do you feel neglected?
3. Did you goof up/sin/embarrass yourself and you feel like no one likes you/wants you there anymore?
4. Do you feel invisible or neglected or ignored?
5. Is your church preaching the Word of God or the pastor’s opinions?
6. Is the pastor living what he’s preaching?
7. Is God prompting you to go?
8.  Are all your friends moving to a certain church?
9. What if you and your spouse like different churches? Is it okay to attend separately?
10.  Is there strife, bickering, gossiping, or back-biting at your church?

Write down ALL the reasons WHY you want to leave. Even if you’re not sure why, write down some possible answers. Sometimes writing, (since it stimulates a different part of the brain that typing on the computer), can help you to realize why you are wanting to leave.

Know that your church is not responsible for your total spiritual nutrition and growth . . it is YOURS. But know, also, that a good church can foster spiritual growth, but a bad church can shipwreck your faith!! Where you choose to go really is a BIG deal! Know, also, that trying different churches will post likely be way out of your comfort zone. This could be because you have strong neural networks built up in your brain about the good memories from your previous church, and none, if any, about the new church. So take your time, relax,  and know that you WILL find a new church.

Last, and most importantly, trust God’s leading . Let Him choose where HE wants you to go. Finding a church is so much bigger than you getting fed spiritually or finding a church that meets your needs!   It’s being planted in a place that needs the gifts that only you can bring.  

Asking God to put you where HE wants you is also for your brothers and sisters in Christ! I have a dear friend who felt compelled to leave her church. She felt very used and unsupported. Her and her husband prayed and they ended up at a church that was spiritually not as mature as we all thought she should attend, but she continued to minister through her huge heart full of God’s love. That was something that the new congregation had never experienced before. And and as she showed Gods love they fell in love with her! and began to show love and support to one another! The church grew both spiritually and numerically since her and her husband joined.


If . . .Then
I want to go back to the questions that I asked you in the Why section, because I have seen people, me included, just ignore them and end up at a church they feel and stuck in and regret ever attending.  

1. First of all, if you’re tempted to leave your current church because someone has offended you, then YOU ABSOLUTELY MUST DEAL WITH ANY AND ALL OFFENSE(S)!   Otherwise, you will take your easily-offended stinky attitude with you to the next church(es). Instead of holding on to that bitterness, hurt and blame, go to God. Tell Him in prayer about EVERYTHING that hurt or offended you. Then forgive. Confess your part in the offense if that applies. Is there anything you can do to make things right? If so, then do it. Then evaluate if you’re still feeling the pull to change churches. After that, spend the next few days/weeks/months praying for the person who offended you. Pray until you truly love that person. Then see if God is still leading you away from that church. A good book to read about the danger of being offended is entitled ‘The Bait of Satan’ by John Bevere.

2. Next, what if you’re feeling neglected, invisible, or ignored?  What if you aren’t feeling appreciated for all the time you spend volunteering? Sadly, I’ve been there. At a previous church, I volunteered to fill Welcome bags for first time guests. I homeschooled my kids at the time, and was desperate for adult companionship. The thought of being around church staff members where we could talk about Jesus seemed to be the absolute BEST!! So you can imagine how hurt I was when I came in to do the bags and one of the associate pastors told me that the bags were now being put in the storeroom and I could fill them back there, and ‘by the way, close the door, because its cold back there!’

So for 2 hours every Friday, I filled bags. Alone. In a cold store room. Many times I would cry from the sheer loneliness of knowing the people I longed to spend time with were just on the other side of the wall. But I knew that God was calling me to fill those bags. And every week, God would deal with my attitude, reminding me that I was there to serve HIM, not them, and that HE would keep me company. 

After a few Fridays, I started to pray as I filled the bags. I’d pray for the people who would be getting those bags and how God would use it to change lives. Every week it got easier to fill those bags until I began to look forward to it.   In this time of hurt, God taught me compassion.  He taught me to actively thank the people who I work with, who volunteer, and who lead.  And it was that very same church that God directed me to start a Military Ministry that ministered to up to 60 families!!! The point is, if you feel neglected, ignored, etc. first realize you are led by the Spirit of God, NOT by your emotions. Next know that you are there to serve GOD! Sometimes that means serving people too, but not always. Let God do His work in you! Seek God; don’t dare walk in self-pity!! It can also mean that God desires YOU to be the healing balm that is otherwise neglected in that specific church.  Ask Him what HE wants you to get out of this experience, and then be open to His teaching and leading. Read Hebrews 12:4.

3. Let’s approach the question about the very touchy subject of what to do if you or a family member have sinned: I had a dear friend who got offended by a staff member AND her son was selling drugs at church before youth group.  How in the world do you recover from something like that?  Leave?  Maybe.  Endure the icy stares every Sunday making it nearly unbearable to attend church?   My friend had to do some real soul-searching.  But she finally came to the realization that her family was not the star of the show, God was .

Church is where we go to get away from the world and re-focus on God.  We, by choice, make God the star.  But in a situation where you or a family member has sinned publicly, it it VITAL to go to God in prayer and  ask God if He will release you to look for another church.  He may, or He may have you just stick it out where you are.  No matter which it is, please take the time to pray for healing for everyone involved . Pray for total restoration for you and others, even if God calls you to leave. You also must realize that Ephesians 6:12 applies here: ‘For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.’

Being in church does not mean that you are immune to spiritual attacks from within the church. The church can truly be the enemy’s playground because the most harm can be done to many by wounding just a few. Many times, to stay even though you’ve been embarrassed or humiliated by something that you, or a family member have done, is one of the bravest, most healing, best things you can do. But you MUST be led by God, no matter if you leave or stay.

4-7. Next, what about the preaching. Is the pastor preaching the Word of God, or is he preaching his or other peoples’ opinions?  Does he take the Bible out of context?  If so, is it done often? Does he live what he preaches? And - this is important - does he tell cool stories, but they happened 10 or 20 years ago instead of recently?

We attended one church where the pastor had to work a second job to make ends meet, which gave him little time to study the Bible and prepare sermons. When he preached, it was from books other than they Bible, secular opinions and research and statistics. We watched our little church go from a growing and thriving place that was open anytime you needed to go and pray to a church that was dying before our eyes. It was horrible and literally painful to watch.

Because it was a small church, we invited him to dinner and politely asked about it.  He admitted that he was no longer in the Bible and it it saddened and surprised him to know that those in the pews could tell a difference. We offered any help he might need if it could free him up to study and better prepare. We closed out that evening feeling assured and hopeful that things would change. Instead things got worse. I wanted to leave and we asked God if we could.  Within 10 days, a friend invited me to a church that I had secretly wanted to go to for years. 

But one of the mistakes that I did make as we were leaving is not praying for the pastor. In retrospect, that that was a big mistake.  20 years later and that same little church was still struggling. In my opinion, and pertaining to what the Bible says, it is the Word of God honored, preached, taught, and carried out that gives a church light and life. When the word of God is given supreme authority, many other things will fall into place also.

8. On the subject of friends, when you have a close knit group of friends who you attend church with, it can be difficult when they start going somewhere else. Peer pressure is not just hard for kids to deal with. When we experienced this, I would go to God, and ask why they were leaving, and if we should leave, too. But when I thought about going somewhere else, it didn’t feel right. It felt foreign. According to Isaiah 55:12, we are to be led by God’s peace. If you have peace where you’re attending, then don’t leave. If you don’t have peace, ask God where He would like you to attend. The times that we have left a church, God would put the desire to leave in our heart long before He called us to actually walk out the doors and not go back and we always did our very best to leave on good terms with as many people as possible. We are brothers and sisters in Christ. It shouldn’t cause a break in fellowship for someone to go to a different church. If your friends have a right heart, they’ll support your decision. But if they are treating you badly because you haven’t left to go to church with them, then maybe it’s time to question the friendship. Matthew 16:26 asks ‘For what profit is it to a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul? Or what will a man give in exchange for his soul?’

9. What if you find a great church but your spouse doesn’t like it? What if it meets your needs, but not your spouses needs? Thats a difficult question and it is something you really need to seek God about. God delights in unity. the closest verse I could find on the issue is Matthew 18:19: ‘“Again I say to you that if two of you agree on earth concerning anything that they ask, it will be done for them by My Father in heaven. For where two or three are gathered together in My name, I am there in the midst of them.” If you go to different churches and come back home and teach each other what you’ve learned with an open heart, that would be a great thing. But it is so easy to get competitive having a ‘my church is better than your church’ attitude that things could go off the rails quickly and it could cause strife between the two of you.

10. Lastly, and speaking of strife, if you are in a church where strife(bickering, arguing, back-biting) is not dealt with, then pray about leaving. Strife is poison. It can kill a church. It will cause a Christian to backslide and turn away from God. It can destroy a family and ruin a marriage. James 4:1, 1Timothy 6:4, 1Corinthians 3:3 and Romans 1:29 and 13:13 are some great verses about the dangers of strife. James 3:16 says that where there is envy and strife, and self-seeking, there is also confusion and every evil thing.’ Strife is also a barometer of other things going on. Leave None Behind Ministries also offers an in-depth teaching on strife and how to deal with it, which is entitled ‘ The Key’.

Now that we looked at some of the negatives, let’s look at what good things to look for in a church. Realize that you are an individual,  and your worship style, gifts, and personal preferences do come into play. So ask yourself:

-do you prefer a choir, or a praise and worship band?
-do you feel comfortable with dance in church, or are you against it?
-do you like a pastor who wears specific clothes to preach in? A suit? Or are jeans and a shirt okay?
-do you prefer a formal church or a spirit led service?
-do you prefer preaching that is topical or do you like it to be straight from the Bible, verse on verse?
-do you desire Sunday school classes?
-are you comfortable attending small groups in someones home?
-what are the volunteer opportunities?
-do you want a church that specifically support missionaries?
-do you prefer a small church or a large one?
-how many miles are you willing to drive or go to this new church?
-do you need a children’s program? What about a youth camp?
-do you want your children to be in church with you during service?
-are you uncomfortable if the pastor talks about money? Satan?
-are you comfortable in a church which is very evangelistic?
-do you desire to do street witnessing?
-what does this church do for the poor?
-how friendly are you and is this church? Is it a good match on that level? Are they huggers? Are you comfortable with that?
-how far away is the church?  'A church alive is worth the drive, but the farther the drive the less chance you might have to really get involved.
-are you comfortable if there are satellite churches attached to the main church?
Does the lead pastor preach most of the services or are there multiple pastors preaching each week?

I encourage you to write down your answers all these questions that I have posed to you. When we were searching there were some churches I knew 10 minutes into the service that it wouldn’t work for us. What surprised me is just how many churches that I felt completely at home in. That is part of being the body of Christ.  We are one.  We have, or share, one spirit. If the spirit of the Lord is at that particular church, you will feel comfortable there.  

The best next step is to listen to an online sermon. Enjoy each sermon as if it’s from your favorite pastor. Try not to be critical or defensive as you listen for the first time. Then consider giving each church a rating as simple as ‘yes’ or ‘no’. Then note all the churches you gave a yes to, and over the next weeks, listen to more sermons from those churches. When you have it narrowed down to just a few, consider - if you are able - to visit in person each of the churches.

When you go, be ready with any questions you might have. Can you talk one-on-one with the lead pastor, or do you need to talk to an Assistant pastor? My hubby and I never felt the need to, but I have friends who wouldn’t attend a church unless they could meet with the pastor first. Then, before you go all in, you might want to consider attending for a few weeks just to get the feel for the church. In the meantime, all along, be praying, asking and thanking God that He is placing you right where He wants you to serve.

If you do find a church that you absolutely love online, but it is in a different state or simply too far away to attend, great! Then continue to watch it online. But also find a LOCAL church to attend regularly and serve at. A church is a big investment in time, heart, and your family, too, but always remember that every church is led by imperfect people. Treat it as such, and trust God to lead youth the place HE has for you to go!

Healed

By Kim Milberg • March 27, 2020
Find the 40 Scriptures that this woman stood on for healing for terminal cancer

77 Functions of the Holy Spirit

By Kim Milberg • January 22, 2020
I knew the Holy Spirit did a lot, but I had no idea that He did all this!! Here are 77 functions of the Holy Spirit that will surprise you and have you checking the Bible and saying 'I had no idea that the Holy Spirit did that!'

He's My Husband . .  I Should Be Able To Tell Him Everything, Right?

By Kim Milberg • May 21, 2019
Communication is much more than simply talking to someone.

Are You Freaking Kidding Me??

By Kim Milberg • July 31, 2018
Being and staying offended can hinder both spiritual healing as well as emotional healing and also block healing from PTSD.

 Really High Expectations

By Kim Milberg • July 22, 2018
Being judgmental - everyone is at some time or another. But it can also start a cascade of issues that can interfere with life, marriage, relationships, and healing as well as add to the emotional burden of PTSD.

4 Alternatives to Pain Medication

By Kim Milberg • July 2, 2018
From a TENS Unit to something relatively new, to a way to put a complete STOP to PTSD, learn that you do have alternatives to prescription pain pills!

You Are Valid

By Kim Milberg • June 17, 2018
In this world, each of us makes an impact on one another. Our nation needs it's veterans now more than ever. You can make a positive impact if you understand that you really do matter. That you really are important.

A Solid Foundation

By Kim Milberg • April 18, 2018
For my first blog, I'll glance back and looking forward. In 2005, I see my oldest child, Alex, joining the Marines at only 18 years old. He proudly became an 0331 (machine gunner). By 2006 and 2007, he was deploying to western Iraq. He returned from his first deployment, loosing 6 of his buddies. And I hadn’t held up too well, which was noted when my dentist saw that I had fractured all my jaw teeth due to gritting my teeth from the stress of having my son in a foreign country fighting in a war that we had heard about on the car radio when we had been driving together.

Alex was honorably discharged in 2009 and returned to live with us for almost a year while he started on the g.i. program at Lindenwood University. During those nearly 5 years, I started Collection of Veterans Internet Support Sites. And I, along with my husband, was asked by our Pastor to start a Military Ministry at our church. I had the honor of becoming friends with several Marine snipers, an Air Force F-15 and F-22 pilot, Army Rangers, and several Purple Heart recipients and all their spouses. I was the least likely person to start the group, but I had the joy of leading it for 7 years before God called us to move on so I could start LNBM. The Military Ministry is still going strong (and I so love and miss everyone, especially during October when I think of all the fun we would have getting together in the driveway of our house for the Annual Chili Party and Cook-Off!)

During that time span between 2007 and 2013, I spent a lot of time praying for all of you who would eventually be a part of Leave None Behind Ministries. If you are reading this, please know that you are not here by accident; you are a result of hours of heartfelt prayer to the God who desires to help and restore you. I also spent a lot of time studying. I found that as I learned about the brain, that it was literally so exciting that I would have to take a break to call a friend and tell them what I was learning! Now I have the opportunity to share the fascinating info with all of you. And when I learned that the brain was now found to be ‘neuroplastic’, or changeable, I saw how that could apply to those with PTSD. But those concepts were just words in a book until I had the opportunity to apply what I was learning to my own life. I wont go into details now, but look for a blog later called ‘The Bunny Situation’. It was something really bad that happened that God used for good.

In 2010, when LNBM was first conceived, I got ahold of material about Blood Covenant. I had been a Christian for 23 years, but there was so much of the Bible that still just didn’t make sense. Sure, my husband and I had taught Sunday School and led home Bible studies and prayer groups, but there was still something that I just wasn’t getting. But one day, I heard a sermon about having strong faith. Tucked in that sermon among all the verses and facts and exhortation was something I heard loud and clear. I came home ordered old books and new cds from as many different authors as I could find on the topic of the Blood Covenant. And I can honestly say that I have been studying, pondering, or praying about the Blood Covenant every day since then. It has changed my walk with God, it has changed my marriage, and it has changed my life. Out of all that birthed the teaching called Covenant With A King, which is the cornerstone of this ministry.

For the future, Leave None Behind Ministries hopes to expand. It’s my hearts desire to do my teachings and speak publicly all over this great nation to our veterans and their spouses as well as First Responders. I have the possibility of offering my teachings to other organizations. And I have had it in the beginning stages of having a nationwide Veterans Networking Organization. I also have spent time dreaming of gathering many of the support organizations that I spotlight, as well as some others to come together in a small town in southern Missouri, and invite veterans to do a sort of one-stop shopping. They could get lots of help in one place. Sounds far-fetched, but I have appointments with a few people to talk more about it. Whatever happens, you’ll find it here first!

So thank you for stoping by and taking the time to read this blog. And remember, you are not here by accident!

The Amazing Heart/Brain Connection

By Kim Milberg • April 10, 2018
What do you really mean when you say you know something 'by heart'?
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